I’m going to give you a handful of straight answers. I hope you take the hint.
Let’s get to core cookie here. A WOMAN turns a guy on. Women are beautiful beings and men tend to be visual creatures. We like to look, as I’ve discussed in other posts: How To Impress A Man!
But there is so much more to really turning on a man.
Oh and let me get this out right now. This is my experience of what turns me on and other guys that I’ve had conversation with. If you get offended by what I’m saying, think I’m stereotyping or get pissed at anything I write… don’t read it.
Ok, let’s roll.
Guys are visual and we imagine a lot. Our imaginations can be extremely powerful. I’m not a scientist but I would venture to say that 90% of our sexual stimulation comes from our head through imagination.
Many men wouldn’t admit it… but give us a good smut novel and we’ll get rock solid in 10 minutes flat, given the right story. Hit us with some Nora Roberts and you can forget it.
So what are things women can do to get men turned on?
This is when you glance your boobs across our arm, chest… shoot… any part of our body. We know you’re there. We feel it. We like it. And we want you to keep doing it. It doesn’t take much to get us going. It doesn’t have to be skin-to-skin either. You could put four feet of cement between us and we’ll feel it. It’s more mental than anything. It revs up the imagination quicker than a virgin on prom night.
This one is great. You know you’re doing it. It’s when you have those nice pants on and you bend over at the waste. You give us the shot of a lifetime. Forget bending at the knees… and we thank you for it. It gives us just a glimpse of what you got. Again, our imagination is running the show and more than likely you’re NEKKED (in our mind) when you perform this unbelievably sexy move.
The Elevator Mash
This is when we’re in the elevator and you decide to stand right in front of us. There’s 15 people in there and you have no choice but to back that thing up. You graze the member and guess what happens? The mind starts racing and blood starts flowing. The bell better ding quick or you’re going to feel a stack of quarters. Sometimes the elevator mash happens accidentally. It doesn’t matter, the “uh-oh” mechanism takes over. This is where uncontrollable comes to play.
You really want to get our attention, let you nipples get hard and show through your shirt. Oh man! Even if it’s a stranger, if the Lighthouse Lanterns show up, I’m looking at least for a minute. When my wife walks in with hers on, HOOOOLLLLY SMOOOOKES! Look out it’s driving me bonkers. I feel like that commercial… BACON.. BACON… BACON… I WANT BACON!
I love the sneak peeks I get from my wife. It sets the stage for what’s to come. It’s a little tease before the action. The calm before the storm. These little peeks will cause our minds to race with visuals and fantasies in no time flat.
Do you realize how hot you make us?
We’re so easy, aren’t we.
Some of this list is what turns me on and friends I’ve spoken with. Will this be the same for all men? Of course not.
Here’s the biggest thing that turns men on…
Yes, a conversation is what it takes to turn us on. At least it takes a conversation for you to find out what your man likes and doesn’t like. It takes a conversation for you and him to explore each other in ways you never dreamed possible. Open up the conversations of what you want, like, and fantasize about and you may end up in a hot sweaty mess.
I find many people don’t open up in the bedroom. They hold back because they’re afraid of what their partner might think. They don’t want to say what they truly would like to do. Instead they hold it in and only fantasize. Open your relationship up through communication, especially about sex, and you may find your relationship moves to a whole new level.
Don’t be afraid to say, “A little higher”, “A little lower”, “right there”. “Harder”, “Faster”, “AughhhOhhhh!!!!”
We engage physically and rarely engage to the same level in conversation. Start there and you will find your sex life and relationship, as a whole, will enhance.
Now that you have a few ideas about what turns men on, how about you leave me a note and tell me what turns you on. Guys, be open, tell us what you think. Ladies, give it to us straight. Give us something to talk about openly.
I hope you have a hot sweaty night!
PS- I’ll be releasing a book soon. You can look for it around the beginning of July or so. I might get mauled because of the mancode secrets I’ll be releasing, but I’ll take my chances. I’ll let you know when it hits the bookstore.