Have you ever noticed the problems in your relationship. I bet you could list them off the top of your head. You know the problems that persist no matter what you do or say. No matter what you do these problems seem to show up. And what’s worse is they show up at the worst times.
Have you ever wondered why these problems continue to persist?
The reason they persist no matter what you do or try is because no matter what you’re doing or trying your context is the same. What do I mean by context…
Context – the interrelated conditions in which something exists or occurs.
The conditions that these problems persist inside of are your own assumptions, hopes, cynicisms, resignations, and experiences. Or you could say that your context is derived from the person you are today based on your past. And unless these things change you’re probably going to get more of what you already have.
How can you change your past?
You can’t change the actual events of your past. But you can change the meaning you have given those events. When you start to look at your past you might find that you’ve given certain meanings to it. Maybe your relationship with money is the way it is because you didn’t have nay growing up. Maybe you think money is the root of all evil because that is what your parents taught to you.
You must first be open to the idea that you can change your context at will. Look at the situation from different angles. Analyze your feelings and find out where you’ve created meaning from past events. Look to see if you could see a different meaning for that event. When you can do that you’ll begin to shift your context. You’ll begin to shift the way you look at the persistent problems. You may even find that those problems stop being problems and become an opportunity to get closer to your partner.
If you really want an opportunity to blow away your persistent problems then I urge you to grab a copy of Bobby’s new book called “The Meaning Making Machine”. It’s on Amazon right now and it will demonstrate very quickly why you are the way you are and how your human computer has controlled you since you were born. But you have a choice and you’ll see why and what you can do about it. Go check it out.
Love… to infinity and beyond.