Not the Language of Love…

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Warning: If you are offended by language, profanity or open discussion about sex, love and/or relationships, read no farther. This article is possibly not for you. If you have ever tried to ban something, or participated in such a ban, stop reading now! This post is not for anyone who is intellectually bankrupt or has no capacity or will to advance a conversation either in public or private. Again, if you are easily offended, STOP READING NOW!!!!!!!!

 

Not the Language of Love…

With that said, let’s get to the heart of the matter. My post today was originally planned to open a conversation around sexual relationships and how we need not be frightened to use the language we have so graciously been provided. Instead, I must address not only this but, the growing ignorance regarding the restraint and now censorship of language itself.

 

I would like to thank Jay Simcic for his post from yesterday. I will not cover the post, you may via the provided link, and I suggest you do so. His point is timely and well taken.

Source: Fifty Shades Of Grey Banned

We have evolved to a societal apex of enlightened stupidity. Who the hell is in charge of anything in Brevard County, Florida? Way to go dumbasses! You attempted to ban 2 Live Crew. You got a federal judge to rule in favor of the lyrics being obscene. The album and the band were launched into stardom by your intolerance and ignorance. Then, to add insult to injury, the ruling was overturned by a federal appeals court. Free publicity for the band, tax dollars spent for no reason and all you got, to quote Bill Engvall, “Here’s you sign”.

I hope you didn’t rid yourselves of the first sign, because with the removal of the book “50 Shades of Grey” from your libraries, you may just need it. I don’t think there will be litigation, but look at the publicity your stupidity is providing both your county and the book. The book isn’t the issue as much as possibly the education system. Who teaches hate, intolerance, and ignorance on this scale? This must be the Ivy League of stupidity.

Where are we today when we engage one another? Do we intentionally hide behind some false moral code in order to hide our feelings and thoughts? In my opinion, yes.

If you don’t like a band, don’t buy or listen to their music. If you don’t like a book, don’t read it. If you don’t like a movie (The Last Temptation of Christ), don’t drive from your home, don’t withdraw the amount of money required for a ticket from your wallet, don’t buy the ticket and don’t watch the movie.

Radio stations, talk show hosts, television programs, music, movies, art, books, they are all either a form of expression or a medium of such. Banning any part or person destroys the public forum of communicating with each other.

I get that not everything is appropriate for all ages. I get that not everything is appropriate for all places. But to stifle the conversation without regard for anyone but a few mental midgets is counter productive on a universal scale.

Now, for the REAL Conversation

My point for today is the open discussion of sex and sexuality. I want to put the forum in perspective before I write another post so that WE (YOU, ME, US) can have a discussion. Nothing more than people sharing in an open conversation without fear, suppression or concern. That’s where I am today and I want you to join me.

Interested? I hope so. Everything we have, everything we do and everything we share is done through language. You are reading this now because of language. You speak to another because of language. We tell others that we love them because of language. We communicate everything, anything and nothing because of language. And above all, I refuse to allow it to be suppressed or killed off. Join me, PLEASE!

I will not promise to be acceptable. I will not promise to be politically correct. I will not promise to keep it safe for work. But I will promise to communicate and provide open dialog regarding sex, relationships and love as I know it.

Join me or screw off, I don’t care. But, if you’ve read this far, what are you thinking?

We are about to embark on a very interesting journey, a clearing house of conversation and ideas, sharing interests and desires. If you don’t have the stomach for it, so be it. But don’t be surprised when the secrets you keep become the poison that kills your relationship.

What is Taboo?

Sex is not taboo. Learning about sex in a healthy manner is not taboo. We used to teach it in school. Having sex is not taboo, but suppressing discussion based on fear and ignorance certainly should be.

In my up coming book all of this is discussed in detail and we reveal why we share and don’t share information about sex with each other or our children. The reasons are clear and well defined, yet we are afraid of what we don’t know. So let’s dig in and get with it and above all, have fun within the discussion.

Next week I will get back to the point I wanted to cover today. It is dirty, profane and possibly vulgar, but we are talking about sex. Let’s get dirty with it.

So be Forewarned: If Words Scare YOU, Avoid My Posts in the Future.

I will be challenging each of you to get involved in the conversation. Get your families involved, get your friends involved, get your lovers involved, but get involved.

Does the word vagina make you uncomfortable or excited? Does the word penis make you cringe with fear or bring you to erotic thought? There is your homework assignment for next week. If you can’t handle these words, you better hang on to your ass next week.

Until then, please leave me a comment. Love it, hate it, but talk about it. Invite me into your would and I will share mine, but don’t back off now we are only getting started.

Love with no shame and ask with no fear.

Bobby

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Fifty Shades Of Grey Banned

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fifty shades of greyThis post is off schedule but I just came across this short video on CNN.com which indicates that libraries are pulling a book off the shelves. And I had to get this out while it was on my mind.

The book in question is called “FiftyShades Of Grey“.  I’ve included the link in case you want to pick up your copy.

It’s an interesting read.  It’s fiction but gives you a look into a realm of sex and love that many people don’t know about and rarely talk about.

Is it a conversation I would want to have with my 6 year old daughter?  Hell no.

It would be a conversation to discuss with older teenagers who are entering the sexually active years who have questions.  I wouldn’t be opposed to having candid conversations about this when they came up.

My opinion is that open conversation allows young people and adults alike to communicate on a mature level about what matters to them.  And as I recall as a teenager my hormones were firing off.  And if I had someone to talk to about this sort of thing I wouldn’t have had to learn from friends or through experimentation as much.

Besides, I won’t doubt this book will make it to the hands of the people the library was trying to keep it from anyway.

Anyone remember 2-Live Crew?  Ha!

Consider that keeping these things from our young adults forces them to experiment on their own without the proper precautions and frame of mind.

Ok, but back to the book…  It’s so taboo the library is pulling it off the shelves.  Is it censorship?  You decide…

 

Interesting, don’t you think.  We live in a country that touts our freedoms yet something so simple as a book is being yanked off the library shelves.

Next thing you know fine art that includes nudity will be banned.  How in the hell did we get so friggin’ prude.  On top of that, how did we get to a point where we can’t talk about these things openly with close friends, young adults, or the teenagers we parent.

Are we going backwards in this society or is it just me.

Again, I’m sure this will fire someone up.  Leave your comments if you dare.

Jay

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Fun Bags, Tits, Hooters, Titties, Racks Oh My!

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Boobs, Please Your Man, Fun Bags, TittiesOh my goodness.  I’m sure this post is going to stir some crap.

Remember, you’re getting the REAL thoughts of a man about one of the most charged topics known to man. 

Boobs.

Yes, we have nick names for them.  Let’s see if I can come up with a few.  Smile

Fun Bags, Tits, Titties, Racks, Cans, Bazongas, Ta-Ta, Twins…

You get the picture.  The list goes on.  And here’s the thing, we don’t mean any disrespect to women or their boobs.

With great power comes great responsibility.

They actually have great power over us.  You see, there are only a few things in this world that can stop men in their tracks, completely wipe their mind clean of anything, and begin slobbering or mumbling. 

And any part of a boob is one of those things.

And I’m going to tell you, it’s not a controllable thing.  It just happens.  It’s as if it is built in. 

In fact it takes a lot of power and control to NOT look at them. 

Really, just a bit of side boob could be hanging out and we’re looking.  It could be 80 year old granny boobs and we’re looking. 

For REAL.  It’s an involuntary reaction. 

Ninja boob watching is the sneakiest.

We have even developed a method of boob watching that is extremely sneaky.  It’s so ninja it’s not even funny.

I call it “Peri-viewing”. 

It’s when you look at boobs through your peripheral vision.  Now, I’m not going to divulge to you exactly what that looks like because then you’ll throw a hissy fit when you see the look.

And that’s part of the problem.

If women understood that it’s NOT a disrespect thing and it’s an admiration thing maybe you wouldn’t be so up tight about boob watching.

We really do react to them.

Real story, and I’ll probably get beat for it.

I was in my office one day and a certain lady, I find very attractive and have been married to for over 15 years, came in and performed a diabolical 3-second “stun flash”.  She caught me in the middle of doing something.  By the time I saw the Boob flash I was stunned.  I could no longer think.  My fingers stopped typing, my mind went blank, then they were gone.

It all happen so fast but the 1-second that I caught them made the difference.  Not only are they burned into my memory in only a second (spank bank) but it rendered me useless for at least five minutes.   But it didn’t stop there because it invoked an involuntary reaction in the nether region that I couldn’t do anything about.

Ladies, you really do have the power.  But then you complain because we check out the boobs.  It’s ingrained and it is more unnatural to not look.

Cleavage in public and at work.

Now, I’ve got a bone to pick.  I know for a fact when a breeze blows and I have a hole in my shorts I feel it very easily.  With that I know when women are getting dressed and there is 6 to 12 inches of cleavage showing, you know it’s there. 

I can’t help myself.  And don’t tell me you don’t want to be gawked at.  I’ve talked to many women who say themselves, “They know what they’re doing.”

The bottom line is, I’ll do my best not to look but don’t get mad if you catch me peeking using my ninja skills.

And men who are married or are dating these women…  I know you want to see their cleavage. 

And if YOU can see it, so can I. 

So don’t get mad when you see me pulling the ninja maneuver on your girl.  We’ve both got the same animalistic instincts.

Now that I’ve probably pissed off half the country and given away some of the man secrets I’ll probably have my man card revoked.  But I’m hoping for the best.

Do me a favor, you got a complaint, leave a comment.  You agree, leave a comment.  You want us to talk about something juicy or something you’ve been wanting to know about men, leave a comment.

Till next time… I’m going boob watching!

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How a Woman Should Treat Her Man

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While searching on-line I found a really great article. It was written by a woman and posted as Cyra_Ann’s Blog (see link below). Normally I tend to be very critical of women offering advice about men, but this one gets a lot of things right. Big props to her and I hope to see more from her soon.

Keeping in mind that I expected a “Train Wreck”, the blog was concise and to the point. No extra words in an attempt to look good and it covered some big points that I feel most couples should delve into. I intend to cover many of these in up coming posts, but for now, let’s cover two of the high spots.

Exploring the advice

The title is

“10 Ways How a Woman Should Treat Her Man…”

Right away I was interested. The title specifies the behavior of the woman and intimates a positive result from the man. I wanted to see this…

 

9. Try to never contradict or embarrass him in front of his friends, co-workers, or family. That can be very emasculating. Sometimes you might have to really bite your tongue, but you can talk to him later when you’re both alone and it’ll show that you respect him.

 

WOW! And thank you. I couldn’t believe a woman was suggesting this to other women. I have seen men completely embarrassed by a wife or girlfriend in this manner.  Generally, no one means for it to happen, but quick tongues in the presence of others can cause hurt feelings. With that said, guys are not off the hook by any means. Although I was pleased to see this mentioned as advice for women, men are also guilty. Rather than take sides, this is good advice no matter the gender. Being right isn’t as important as being supportive, kind and respectful to our significant others.

 

4. Listen first, and then talk. Let him finish what he has to say before you interrupt. Ask questions if you’re not sure about what he said.

Cyra_Ann’s Blog

 

Did I read this correctly? Did she really say this? So many of our relationship issues come from trying to make a point, rather than understanding one. And again, this goes for everyone. The interruption of conversation denies the actual conversation itself. Both parties are left wanting because nothing was actually discussed. Tempers flare or the conversation shuts down and rightfully so.
No one enjoys being lectured to, but meaningful, open conversation can lead to understanding and trust. Yes trust! In, an up coming post, we discuss this in greater detail, but just consider that trust is built on understanding a persons intentions. If we understand completely, we can choose to trust or distrust. Otherwise, we have to fill in the blank spaces to make a decision. But then, who do we understand? Not the one we intended to…

This is good information for everyone. I like this blog so much that I will continue its review over the next two weeks in order to cover each of the points in detail.

So, whether you like the post or not, please leave me a comment below. And if there is anything on your mind regarding how a man thinks about sex, love or relationships just ask and I or one of the staff will share our opinion.

Remember to keep the dialog going and if you don’t know…

ASK! ASK! ASK!

Until next week…

Love with no shame and ask with no fear.

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What Men Want Women To Know About Their Penis

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WARNING:  What you’re about to read may cause some people discomfort.  If nicknames for your anatomy, foul language and the truth from a man’s view about sex, love, and relationships bother you… then stop reading now. 

I’m writing this because these are topics that are rarely talked about and should be put out in the open.  These are the thoughts, ideas, and musings of men about relationships, love and sex.  With that…

What Men Want Women To KnowWhat Men Want Women To Know About Their Penis

Is it a secret? Not really, but it does seem like women want to know stuff about our ‘meat sticks’ and never ask US.

Why?  I have no friggin’ clue…

But I know they’ll go to the girlie mags or to their friends, who don’t know a darn thing about penises, and ask them.

Ladies, why don’t you just ask your man.  Or ask a friend who is a man?

Here’s the deal… We don’t control it.  It controls us.

Surprise… Surprise… Surprise!

It rises when it wants.  Cool breeze, morning sun, the sight of boobs or boob looking objects… any of them causes a rise on its own.

We can’t command it and we can’t wish it away.

Why do you think we get embarrassed when old one eye shows up to the party.

Because we can’t do anything about it but sit down and place a pillow over our lap and do our best to look natural.

There are only three ways to get it back to it’s flaccid state. 

The first is to leave it alone.  Eventually it will go back down. 

But here’s the thing, it’s part of me.  If you don’t like IT, then you don’t like ME… in a way.

The same way you want flowers, I want you to engage it from time to time without 20 minutes of conversation.

But I digress.

The second way to shrink it is conversation. In fact, conversation may be the fastest way to stop it cold.

And the third way to shrink it is the most fun.  I’ll bet you can’t guess what that is…

But it is sensitive, so be very, very careful!

Yes, ladies, it’s not a joy stick for crying out loud.  It’s a huge pleasure source that needs attention and caring.

The two things underneath it are not bean bags you can knock around. 

Be careful.

You’re welcome to look at it but it may cause it to rise.  Again, on its own.  If it does, since you engaged it then be ready to help out.  I have to take care of it enough on my own.

It’s my soap, my peter, and I’ll wash it as fast as I want to.  And we will talk about THAT in an up coming post pretty soon. 

We love when you rub it, suck it, and well… I’ll keep it at least PG-13 but you know what I mean.

Those things really get us going.  We don’t always get into the emotional mood.  We only do that for you.  Because we love you.  So next time you want to know what works for us, just ask.

Now, let’s get to specifics. 

What feels good and what doesn’t.

First, it’s not a race.  I don’t need you giving me rug burn with your hand.  You don’t need you to spit on it and you certainly don’t need to slap it on your face.

Go slow.  Don’t try to skin it like a dead deer.  And don’t be offended if I tell you what to do.

All men are different.  Your man will like things that I don’t.  So don’t be afraid to ask.  In fact, I encourage you to. 

And if you’re asking your girlfriend what her guy likes… forget it.  It’s not the same.

Besides, if you ask your man what he likes and how he wants you to work him over, you’ll be pleased greater in the long run.

But that’s just me.

I’ll leave you with those thoughts for now.

If you have specific questions that you want to know about a man’s penis then just leave a comment below.

The next topic you’ll see from me will be all about what men think about breasts (a.k.a.: boobs, tits, fun bags…)

Yep, our thoughts will be revealed.

Stay tuned till then.  In the mean time, leave me a note.

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The Best Place to Touch Your Man!

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Please your manIt has always bothered me that articles are printed in major publication claiming to be the over-riding authority on relationships and how a woman should “perform” for her man. I feel strongly that there is no “one size fits all” when it comes to a couple being intimate. However, it is laughable to read some of the things that are printed today.

Don’t get me wrong, there are some nuggets of good information, but come on…

Are we to believe that this is what women think works? All of the time?

So I checked out an article in Cosmopolitan on-line and was amazed at the lack of insight when it came to “His 9 Pleasure Triggers”. Why was I interested? I’m always up for learning something new, but at the same time, I didn’t want there to be any confusion if there was less than accurate information.

 

Here is what I found and some of these are just staggering:

    1. The Outside of His Lower Lip
    2. The Front of His Neck
    3. His Nipples
    4. The Dip Under His Ankle
    5. His Perineum
    6. His Shaft
    7. The Head of His Penis
    8. The Seam of His Testicles
    9. His Frenulum
Source: Cosmopolitan.com

At a glance this list is laughable. I was SHOCKED to think that this was groundbreaking male pleasure spot news. Alright, a few are acceptable and even worth a try, but “The Dip Under His Ankle”? Please! If a woman removed my shoes and socks, then thought I was going to become extremely aroused from an ankle job, we would both be disappointed and possibly a little angry. I am not that complicated and neither are many other men.
So, to be fair, I read on. His Shaft, okay, tell me more. Is it possible that we have something here? Ouch! This sounds torturous! The technique is nothing I would ask to have performed on me! Would it work on some men? Perhaps, but this is what bring me to the real point of this horrible review.

What REALLY Works?

Do you want to know what works for me? Why? 
There is only one person who needs to know that. She has dinner with me, sleeps with me, and more important than any other thing, talks openly and honestly with me. She is the one who has all of the good information, not some made up crap in an on-line magazine. Can we get new things from publications? Sure, but don’t just rush in without some conversation and expect the world to tilt on its axis.

MY favorite pleasure spot is my ear. No, not just licking and nibbling on it (well, that too). Talk to me and let’s get honest and open about what works (and what doesn’t). Call me and let me know that tonight is MY night and that you remember our last conversation about… (Take a moment and fill that blank in). Text me and share a new thought about our last sexual encounter and how we are going to do it better in our next. Send me a photo of something new you are trying on at the mall, but let’s just talk. I get turned on the most over our open discussion about our sex life and what we need, want and desire for and from each other.

The rest is…

Easy.

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