The following story was told to me by one of the coaches I had in the past. It came from an interview done with an out of the ordinary fisherman who had great success.
It stuck with me over the years.
It’s profound advice that you can use to improve your relationship, enhance your sex life, or even save your marriage. You might be skeptical but just believe me long enough to read this story.
Here’s the story…
Captain John Rade, was a legendary fisherman in the New York area. He was known for out fishing every fisherman in his community.
He is a commercial fisherman. Which means he can sell his fish when he gets back to shore. While other commercial fisherman use big nets to bring in their daily catches, Captain John uses nothing but old faithful rod and reel.
He doesn’t use the tools the other fisherman use. No nets… no giant trolling mechanisms… no large crews of fisherman to help him.
He just goes out in his small boat with his rod and reel and out catches every other fisherman by many multiples of fish.
On any given day, fishing on the same body of water, Captain John would routinely pull in more striped bass than ten of his commercial fishing competitors combined.
How does he do this so consistently.
When he was asked by a local news reporter, he said something so simple but profound.
John said, “When most fisherman go out on the water they think like a fisherman. When I go out I think like a fish.”
You’re probably wondering what any of this has to do with saving your marriage or your relationship.
The truth is, it has everything to do with it.
Instead of thinking about how you’re going to get what you want, put yourself in your partner’s shoes and think about what they want.
Ask your self these types of questions…
- How does my partner see me when I act this way?
- What is my partner thinking when I say what I say?
- What kind of emotions is my partner feeling in this situation?
- What would I do in this situation if my partner said or did those things to me?
If you start putting yourself in their shoes you may begin to get a different perspective of how you can approach your relationship.
If your husband comes home late from work and you begin accusing him of cheating on you, what do you think he’s thinking in that moment if your accusations are false?
What do you think it would do to the trust between the two of you if you begin talking down about his friends or family?
What do you think he’s feeling if you yell at him for not taking out the trash when you never gave him a timeline to work from?
Do you think it improves your relationship or hurts your relationship if you withhold sex because you’re secretly mad at him and want to punish him?
These may fit, maybe they don’t… either way you have things that go on in your household that if you were to take an introspective look from your partner’s point of view may change everything.
Most people rarely stop to think about the impact they have on other people. Even the small stuff that you think is insignificant can be devastating if you aren’t communicating effectively.
That’s why it’s so important to think like a fish, so to speak. One of the fastest ways to do that is to have regular, honest, conversations with your partner about the important things. Don’t hold anything back from each other. Don’t judge either. Listen, put yourself in their shoes, and look for new ways you can be with each other.
It will make all the difference in the world.
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Love… to infinity and beyond.