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Can The Pec Pop of Love Save Your Relationship

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Can the “Pec Pop of Love” save your relationship through it’s subliminal message?

This message is for both women and men.  In fact this message is just as much for me as it is for you.  Watch an read and you’ll understand.

Watch this clip and we can discuss it when it’s over…

The clip you just watched is from Journey 2:  The Mysterious Island.  One of the main characters is played by Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson.  He goes on a journey to bond with his step son.  It’s a nice family movie that is fun to watch.  But the key scene you just watched is funny and effective in it’s subliminal message.

You see, Dwayne’s character is dispensing some advice to his step son on how to land the hot girl who is stuck on the island with him.  The boy can’t stand it.

The truth is… there may be some truth to the “Pec Pop of Love” if you take it to another level of understanding.

First, it’s not so much the Pec Pop that’s going to do the trick but the physique, exercise, and commitment it takes to get in shape.

You’re probably wondering how all this comes together but let’s look at some of the benefits of being physically fit and exercising on a regular basis.

  • Exercise is known to reduce depression for both men and women.
  • Physically fit people tend to have a higher stamina in the bedroom.
  • Physically fit people tend to have higher confidence in themselves.
  • That confidence they now have comes across in everything they do and are sexy to the opposite sex.
  • exercise and depression

Those are some great side benefits if you ask me.  Confidence, feeling sexy, higher performance in the bedroom… you can’t ask for more than that for the side benefits of anything.  I don’t know one pill, even the “blue pill” that can do all that.

I’m going to add to the list above for what exercise can do for your relationship…

  • Working out together gives each of you more attention on each other.
  • Working out together allows you to have planned showers together.
  • Working out together gives you a reason to add post workout massages to your agenda.
  • Discover what makes each other relax after a hard workout.
  • Plan to have sex after your workout and while you’re already sweaty.
  • Increase the number of conversations you have on a weekly basis because you’re working out together.
  • Talk more often about important topics while you’re de-stressing at the same time.

As you can see, adding exercise routines together can not only improve your physique, stamina, and confidence, it can bring you and your partner closer together in ways you may have never seen before.  This exercise plan you start doing may open up new conversations.  You may grow confident in each other sexually and start exploring new things.  You may begin to see the benefits of conversation, exercise, and the overall benefits of being TOGETHER.

Now can you see how my thoughts of how the Pec Pop of Love can save your relationship?

I would love to hear your Pec Pop story.  Send us some of your hot, sweaty, workout stories.  I want all the gory details.  Has exercise improve your relationship?  Let us know.

Now, obviously you can see there was a physical aspect to this post and a conversational aspect.  If you’re at all interested in improving your relationship, go grab our new book that is out on Amazon Kindle.

Get it here:  Mancode Secrets Revealed:  Relationship Advice For Women

Love… to infinity and beyond.

Jay

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Spicing Up Your Sex Life

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Having hotter sex is an ongoing discussion here at RLA Advisors. Time and again we are asked the same question, “What do you suggest?”. When it comes to improving sex there is no “one size fits all” methodology. Sex is an exercise that requires practice and skill just like most physical activities. Few achieve perfection their first time out. It is important to hang in there and keep trying, but at the same time, get better.

Although not one thing works for everyone, we have a few suggestions.

Be Patient

Don’t rush, be patient with yourself and your partner. There is nothing wrong with a “quickie” but it doesn’t have to happen every time. Take the time to explore yourself and your partner. If you are uncomfortable with either, the experience can be less than thrilling. Knowing your body and your partners makes it easier to find all the right spots.

Caress, fondle and examine. Slowly move from one spot to the next. Take more of an interest in the areas that stimulate your partner. And don’t assume that you know every point that he or she likes. With exploration you may just find a few more.

If You Don’t Know, Ask…

Get comfortable with asking questions. During sex it can be exciting to ask if something feels good. Make a game of it and assist each other with the delightful chore of discovering new pleasure spots. One interesting experiment is to create a list of known pleasure areas for each of you. Once completed, share the lists and explore each other without touching any of the listed regions. Place a time limit on this game because it has the tendency to get hot, quick. When the time is up, go for it!

Asking about sex and erogenous zones with your partner can be a little intimidating at first, but in time this should dissipate. Keep each other engaged in the conversation and you will dive deeper into the discussion every time. Each question and answer should be exchanged without any judgment or prejudice. If you don’t know, you have to get the information from somewhere. What better source than the partner you are trying to please?

Getting the Conversation Going

Outside of the bedroom is my favorite place to discuss sex. And I highly recommend it to others. It forces the dialogue to take a different tone and shape. As you are not in the act, the pressure to perform is removed. Since you are not in “performance mode” you get the chance to discuss and exchange ideas without the benefit of doing right then and there (although this has been known to happen on occasion).

The best and most interesting part of the discussion is your imagination. As you begin to talk about what turns you on, what ideas you have, what you have read or seen, the mind reels with the erotic excitement of the conversation. And being excited makes it easier to talk about. Many studies have been done with regard to the human mind and sexual stimulation. It is proven that we respond to question different when we are turned on. And the more we are sexually excited, the more inclined we are to be open about what we think and feel.

Getting into and keeping the conversation going is a great enhancement to sex. I suggest that if either of you are dispassionate about your sex life, discuss it. But let’s not talk about what’s not working. Dwelling on the dysfunctional part tends to highlight just that.  Concentrate on the good stuff even if you have never made it part of your sexual encounters. Commit to each other to be open and honest and schedule a dinner out, away from the house and plan the evening discussion.

Throughout dinner share sexual likes and desires, no matter how crazy or erotic. Don’t judge just accept the conversation as a simple discussion and see where it goes. Ask question about what you are listening to. Get into the nitty gritty of the ideas. Share the eroticism and the fantasies you each have. You may find that you have some ideas in common, but at the very least, you should have an exciting, sexually charged conversation.

Continue on the drive home and enjoy the rest of the evening. Because conversation is the best foreplay.

Love with no shame and ask with no fear

Bobby

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How To Save Your Marriage-Advice From A Fisherman

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The following story was told to me by one of the coaches I had in the past.  It came from an interview done with an out of the ordinary fisherman who had great success.

It stuck with me over the years.

It’s profound advice that you can use to improve your relationship, enhance your sex life, or even save your marriage.  You might be skeptical but just believe me long enough to read this story.

Here’s the story…

Captain John Rade, was a legendary fisherman in the New York area.  He was known for out fishing every fisherman in his community.

He is a commercial fisherman.  Which means he can sell his fish when he gets back to shore.  While other commercial fisherman use big nets to bring in their daily catches, Captain John uses nothing but old faithful rod and reel.

He doesn’t use the tools the other fisherman use.  No nets… no giant trolling mechanisms… no large crews of fisherman to help him.

He just goes out in his small boat with his rod and reel and out catches every other fisherman by many multiples of fish.

On any given day, fishing on the same body of water, Captain John would routinely pull in more striped bass than ten of his commercial fishing competitors combined.

How does he do this so consistently.

When he was asked by a local news reporter, he said something so simple but profound.

John said, “When most fisherman go out on the water they think like a fisherman.  When I go out I think like a fish.”

You’re probably wondering what any of this has to do with saving your marriage or your relationship.

The truth is, it has everything to do with it.

Instead of thinking about how you’re going to get what you want, put yourself in your partner’s shoes and think about what they want.

Ask your self these types of questions…

  • How does my partner see me when I act this way?
  • What is my partner thinking when I say what I say?
  • What kind of emotions is my partner feeling in this situation?
  • What would I do in this situation if my partner said or did those things to me?

If you start putting yourself in their shoes you may begin to get a different perspective of how you can approach your relationship.

For instance…

If your husband comes home late from work and you begin accusing him of cheating on you, what do you think he’s thinking in that moment if your accusations are false?

What do you think it would do to the trust between the two of you if you begin talking down about his friends or family?

What do you think he’s feeling if you yell at him for not taking out the trash when you never gave him a timeline to work from?

Do you think it improves your relationship or hurts your relationship if you withhold sex because you’re secretly mad at him and want to punish him?

These may fit, maybe they don’t… either way you have things that go on in your household that if you were to take an introspective look from your partner’s point of view may change everything.

Most people rarely stop to think about the impact they have on other people.  Even the small stuff that you think is insignificant can be devastating if you aren’t communicating effectively.

That’s why it’s so important to think like a fish, so to speak.  One of the fastest ways to do that is to have regular, honest, conversations with your partner about the important things.  Don’t hold anything back from each other.  Don’t judge either.  Listen, put yourself in their shoes, and look for new ways you can be with each other.

It will make all the difference in the world.

Now I invite you to accelerate the success of your relationship, visit Amazon.com and grab a copy of our new book Mancode Secrets Revealed.  It’s a great read that will open your eyes to a man’s perspective.  Read this book and you will begin thinking like a fish and not a fisherman.

Get it here:  http://www.amazon.com/Mancode-Secrets-Revealed-Relationship-ebook/dp/B008VWYR08/

Also, there is a wonderful bonus at the end of the book that will open up both you and your partner’s minds around sex.  After this you might have the best sex of your life.  Go get it and leave a comment on Amazon to tell us what you think.

Love… to infinity and beyond.

Jay

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The Morality of Fifty Shades of Grey

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There have been several accounts of attacks on the book Fifty Shades of Grey.  In fact here is one post we wrote regarding one of those attacks.

Fifty Shades Of Grey Banned

The “let me impose my morals on you” crowd are at it again.  Recently an article was published in the United Kingdom and again in the Los Angeles Times regarding a UK charity calling for the collection and burning of the book Fifty Shades of Grey. Here are the links respectively:

Fifty Shades of Abuse Campaign UK

LA Times Report on British Charity

As it goes, the charity director, Clare Phillipson, has claimed that the book “normalizes abuse, degrades women and encourages sexual violence”. Further she states the book sends the message that “domestic violence is sexy”.

Now, I want to be fair and state clearly, neither I or anyone at RLA approves of domestic violence. There is no further discussion for us on this matter. However, to take a piece of fiction that deals with a consensual world of BDSM and apply it to a serious issues like abuse and domestic violence does little to promote your cause. I only hope that the good people at Wearside Women in Need, in Sunderland, were just trying to find coattails of a rapidly accelerating item to hang their agenda on in order to gain recognition. If so, well done! But, domestic violence, I’m sorry to vehemently disagree.

Fifty Shades of Morality

When it comes to the right and wrong of an issue, there can be as many different opinions as there are people in the argument. And we are programed to strive to always be right. We try to put everything into neat little piles that define the right and wrong of a situation. But it cannot always be so neat. Truly there are laws governing behavior. Laws are constructed to be a representation of the people they govern. If you don’t like the laws, vote in new representation or perhaps move to a place more to your liking.

We have laws governing everything from drugs to the speed limit. They change from state to state and from one country to another. And they reflect the citizens of those regions. But when it comes to sex, who gets to decide what two consenting adults get to do for pleasure?

The morality of the question is neither perplexing or convoluted. No one should be able to impress their standard of sexual morality upon another, provided there remains consent and maturity, i.e. consenting adults.

The book is designed to provide a view into a sexual social circle that does, in fact, exist.  To think otherwise is fooling yourself. There are complete web sites for just this type of behavior. They sell quality items for binding and restraining. One of the largest is Extreme Restraints, I suggest caution if you are a first time visitor to the site.

But the real trouble, as I see it, is not the desires written in the book, it’s what people make them into using their personal moral values. In the book Fifty Shades of Grey, Anna is given several opportunities to walk away from the “life style” and yet she chooses to remain, negotiate a contract and participate. The character Anna was portrayed as an open minded intelligent woman who choose to engage and enjoy a sexual adventure with a man she deeply cared for. Now that’s my view and opinion.

Now assume that I found the book to be objectionable, it would be easy for me to see it in a far different manner. Where I get tangled up is no one has the authority to force others to behave as their personal morality dictates. If you don’t like the book, don’t buy it and don’t read it. If you don’t like sex using restraints, don’t participate in it. But, don’t tell me how to live my life and, for heavens sake, don’t confuse consensual sex fantasies with a serious issue like domestic violence.

Fifty Shades of Reality

Just mentioning the word “sex” will elicit and provoke thoughts of a wide and varied range within people. What is mild to some is wild to others. What is considered strange to a few can be widely accepted by many. It is our experience level, our comfortably and our morality that makes it what it is. At the early age of _______ (fill in the blank) when the world of sex began for you, everything was exciting and new. As you became more comfortable with a partner or the act, it can be less thrilling. So we move on to new and more exciting things. There is nothing wrong with consenting adults experimenting and enjoying new sexual exploits.

Generally, it is necessary for one partner to be in control and the other to be submissive during sex. What’s the problem? We don’t what to acknowledge this  happens naturally? And then when a accepting, adult couple wishes to try something a little more racy, we get our panties in a knot? Pardon the pun. And that’s knickers in a twist for our UK readers.

Please don’t think for a minute that I give two craps about what you do in your bedroom. I don’t. But the success of this book cannot be denied. It holds the record for the fastest selling book ever in the U.S. topping the huge favorite Harry Potter. More than 3 million copies were sold electronically in less than a month. The book has enjoyed more than 60 printings. 37 countries have the rights, and it has been translated to more than 30 languages. It topped the New York Times Best Seller list for 15 weeks and the movie rights have sold for $5 million.

Although the book continues to remain popular, industries seem to build upon its supposed immoral position. The Daily Anthem published this article Fifty Shades of Grey success illustrates social depravity. Their claim is that the books success is a clear indication of social depravity. Really? Who’s morals are we using for this litmus test? It also suggests that sexually repressed housewives are the target market. If that’s the case, what are we missing? Are we depraved or sexually repressed?

Fifty Shades of Role Play

Our readers have been asking about role playing, the benefits thereof  and the nuances of playing roles in the bedroom. Is Fifty Shades role playing? I think it is but at a level some may find challenging. Role playing can be a great enhancement to bedroom (or outside thereof) activities. What’s right for you? Hell, I don’t know, but I suggest if this question is there for you and your significant other, try it on and see what happens.

Does she want to be the French maid, posing seductively while “dusting”? Does he want to be the repair man who gets a great send off after tending to the broken television. Or do you both want to try out  mild restraints and open power exchanges? Give it a whirl, but don’t forget the golden rule of RLA Advisors…

Have a conversation, be respectful with no judgment, set it up, enjoy and report back to us the success of your Fifty Shades of Happiness.

As of late, the inquiries we receive have been very sexually charged and we will attempt to address them one at a time. I will be covering role playing in detail in an up coming article. Keep the questions coming and give us the time needed to generate a solid response. I apologize if we have not yet covered the area you are waiting for, but I promise we will soon.

In the mean time you should grab a copy of our first book.  You may find new openings for action in your relationship and an enhanced sex life.  All it takes is a few minutes of your time.  Go grab it, it’s only $2.99.

Mancode Secrets Revealed: Relationship Advice For Women

As always,

Love with no shame and ask with no fear

Bobby

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Our Deepest Thanks

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Although I usually publish on Tuesdays every week, I wanted to take the time to thank our readers and supporters and share the good news. As you know, our first book was released on Amazon.com almost two weeks ago. RLA has worked provide quality offerings in both print and video. We were very happy with the first book, but as with anything we were also anxious to hear from our readers.

Yesterday morning our book, Mancode Secrets Revealed – Relationship Advice For Women, was listed as #7 on the Amazon.com best sellers list for relationship advice. By the end of the business day the book had advanced to the #2 spot on the same list. We are incredibly humbled and wish to extend our deepest gratitude to each and every one of our supporters.

In the up coming weeks we will release our second book. And with the currently generated excitement we hope you will find it equally enlightening.

Our mission statement is:

To make an impact with people around the world. And we do this by providing them the tools they need to have the relationships of their dreams.

I ask that you continue to dream, and dream big!

As always,

Love with no shame and ask with no fear

Bobby

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