Save This Marriage Using 4 Simple Strategies

While saving a marriage may not be impossible, it is really hard to do it by yourself. When your spouse has one foot out the door, it may seem like any chance of rescuing your relationship is over. If you just maintain a cool head, you will give yourself a chance to find some options to offer your spouse for rethinking their position. By using these strategies, you may be able to bring your spouse around to your way of thinking, and that may be all it takes to redirect your energy as a couple in a positive direction.

The Elements Needed to Save a Marriage

Act As If – Many studies have been conducted which show that how we act actually dictates how we feel. If you feel sad, and you make yourself take a posture of being happy, you will begin to actually feel happy. So if you act like you are a happy couple, you will begin to feel like a happy couple. That does not mean that all of your problems will simply melt away, but it does mean that you are stacking the deck in your favor to help you both remember why you fell in love in the first place. Being happy causes you to remember the good times, and that continues the blissful cycle.

Be Patient – You may want your spouse to behave differently or join you in counseling. If they are not ready to try these things just yet, do not hound them. Begging and threatening are much more apt to cause additional problems rather than fix anything. Ask gently, and ask often. Try not to judge your spouse because they do not move at the same pace that you do. They are processing the problems that you are having as a couple, and maybe what they need for a fix is not what you need for a fix. If you are both genuinely trying to save your marriage, then give them the space to come to their own decisions. Respect their boundaries and keep offering them the opportunity to try new things or to join you in counseling.

Deal with the Issues – If your spouse was at the brink of leaving, then your marriage has problems. So just because he is staying, do not pretend that the problems do not exist. If you do, you will simply be watching them leave another day. Take this opportunity to find out where the problems are in your relationship and fix them. There are a myriad of problems that drive people apart, but if you both genuinely want to work out whatever the problem for your relationship is, you will find a way. If you find that you are stuck, then enlist the help of a counselor. Otherwise, listen to each other, and if you put each other’s needs in front of your own, you may naturally find your fix.

Maintenance – Just because you are having problems in your marriage does not mean that the world stops. You still have a family to care for, work to attend to and other obligations that are outstanding. So it is really to get beaten down when you are dealing with marital problems. Make sure that you look after yourself, so that you have the mental acuity and energy to deal with everything on your plate. You need to eat, sleep and exercise so that you are healthy and can relieve any built up stress. By taking care of your needs, you will be able to solve your problems more effectively as well.

Once your spouse has thrown in the towel on your marriage, it can be difficult to turn things around, but it is possible to do. Try to stay positive and calm, and let your spouse know that you want to try to repair your relationship. By offering some room for your spouse to express their frustrations, it is possible to save a marriage. You may need to enlist the help of a professional, or you my find your way back to happiness on your own. The important thing is that you try.

Unfortunately you are not the one who filed for the divorce, so it may not even be possible. But you can stop the divorce any time before it becomes final, and since it’s still not final there may still be time to save this marriage.

Of course stopping a divorce is not an easy task. Obviously something got your mate to file for divorce in the first place. So probably begging and whining are not going to be your most effective tactics at this stage of the game.

Start Talking

A simple conversation is probably the best place to start the process. Find out if your, soon to be ex, is amenable to having a conversation about the impending divorce, and then you can go from there.

The more delicate you are in broaching the subject of reconciliation the better it will likely be received. So leave your demands and your hurt feelings at home, because for there to be any chance of this working, you must remain calm and even tempered throughout the conversations.

Begin by asking why your spouse wants a divorce, and then listen to the answer. This may be part of the problem right here, and you may be surprised to learn something new just because you are actually listening for the first time.

Listen and Understand

Then if you understand the reason and think that it is something that the two of you can reconcile, let your mate know that you want to stay married, and that you are very sad at the prospect of a future that does not include them.

If your spouse is interested in trying to reconcile, you may want to suggest that you visit a marriage counselor to help find a constructive way for the two of you to sort out your problems. Millions of couples have benefited from counseling, and it may be just the ticket for the two of you also.

Be open to suggestions where you can improve yourself and your relationship, and assume that your spouse will want to do the same. If during the course of counseling you discover that your spouse doesn’t want to do any work to improve your situation, then you may reassess how you feel and let the divorce continue.

Remember that for this reconciliation to work, you both have to want it.

Be Smart with your Second Chance

Now you’ll have the chance to let your spouse see why they fell head over heels in love at the beginning of your relationship. Just seeing you work so hard on your relationship might be enough to let your spouse really appreciate how much your marriage means to you. It might be all that they need to call off the divorce.

If you are fortunate enough to have your divorce shelved, remember that you got there once, and do your best not to push your relationship to this point ever again. If continuing counseling for one or both of you helps save this marriage, then this may be your ticket to a long and happy future together.

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Anyway, as I was sitting here… I was wondering what your thoughts are on the situation.  So I’ve put up a poll to get your opinion.

Save This Marriage Or Not?

Ok, now for my opinion.

If Tiger and his wife are truly in love with each other they should do everything they can to work out their problems.  I understand he cheated so she may not have a problem other than that… but I believe they need to get to the root cause.

There are known addictions out there, like sex addition and alcoholism, that can consume someone beyond their control.  And with those types of issues they need to seek professional help.

I believe in family and love and while Tiger cheated it may not be because he doesn’t love his wife.  It could be because he suffers with an addiction problem he is having a hard time controlling.

While it’s none of our business what goes on in his family life it is hard not to follow the media coverage.  Let me know what you think and only time will tell if he can save this marriage or if it will go up in smoke.

Have passion.

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• Did Tiger Cheat Because He’s Rich? (blogs.wsj.com)
• Rachel Uchitel Refuses To Admit Tiger Woods Affair Due To Safety Concerns (pinkisthenewblog.com)
• Why women go after married men (timesunion.com)

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The problem is, if you’re trying to save your marriage it could be a disaster.  here’s a video for you that will help fill some of the gaps.

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