A friend of mine told me a story. It’s an amazing example of how we approach life and our relationships. It serves as a lesson in how we can improve the world around us and impact our relationships in positive ways.
Listen to this story and identify where in you’re relationship or life you can apply this short lesson.
Here’s the story…
I have a friend names Harlan. And back in the days when he was serving as a Rabbi he did a great deal of counseling. One day some friends of his reported that a couple they knew were heading toward divorce. No one was able to talk to the husband. He shut down.
The husband was determined that his relationships was over.
When the Rabbi called him on the phone, he asked the husband to come over. He immediately said, “Rabbi, if this is about the divorce. Forget it.”
The Rabbi told him that he was inviting him over for coffee. If he didn’t want to talk about the divorce, that was his decision and he’d respect that.
When he came for coffee the Rabbi began talking to him about the coffee he was serving.
“This coffee is Kona coffee from Hawaii. It’s one of the most expensive coffees on the market. It’s taste is out of this world.
But if you go into a supermarket and pick up a jar of coffee, it sure doesn’t taste like this. In fact, instant coffee barely tastes anything close to this. Instant should hardly be called coffee.
Even the coffee in the can doesn’t taste anything like this.”
The Rabbi’s guest interrupted, “Rabbi, this is the best coffee I ever had! How did you make it?”
He answered: “First, as soon as I get the beans, they go into a freezer in an airtight container. I measure out the exact portion I need and then grind them fresh right before brewing them. The sound you heard when you entered was me grinding the coffee.
Then I pour the coffee into a non-bleached filter and wait for the coffee to drip through. The coffee is so good, most people prefer to drink it black without adding cream or sugar.”
The Rabbi’s friend said, “Who would have thought so much effort went in to making a good cup of coffee?”
The Rabbi said to him, “Anything that’s worth it takes an investment in time and effort. Instant is never worth it.”
He smiled at the Rabbi from across the table.
In a few days the Rabbi heard the man had proposed counseling to his wife. He told her: “Anything that’s worth it takes an investment in time and effort.”
Now the story is true but let’s look at the core elements.
Most people want instant solutions or they give up (leaving the marriage).
Discover the merits, details, etc. of the more detailed approach in your relationship for a premium experience. (Making really good coffee.) Realize now that instant solutions don’t work.
Your relationship is worth investing in… If that involves coming to one of our seminars, reading books, or having hard conversations with your partner then go do it.
This isn’t rocket science. Our relationships are worth living for. They are worth putting our butts on the line for. They are the life inside of our lives.
The ball is in your court.
Love… to infinity and beyond.